Adopted Children

Last weeks lecture on adoption really surprised me in many ways. I was interesting to learn about how adopted parents are interested in meeting/finding their adopted child later on in life. I find this odd because I feel when someone gives a child up for adoption is it never an easy decision. In my other classes, it has been taught that mothers become a parent when they become pregnant and men when the child is born.

I feel that meeting your adopted child later on in life with cause, for the former parent, stress and bring up a difficult or challenging past. I don't understand or see a parent after meeting their former child, would never leave their life again or would cause more stress and begin to complicate things of both sets of parents.

But even with all of these risks and emotions, I can completely understand why or how someone would be curious and feel like they need to know where they came form. I feel like when I have a weird personality trait or even love an odd food, i feel more normal knowing it came from one of my parents. It was also be almost difficult to see how families look a like and not know who you look like.

It seems to be when an adopted child wants to know which parent they look like, they are looking for their inherited genes and quirks more than a parental connection. If i did not know why i was given up for adoption, i think i would prefer to just see my birth parents then to actually know the reason i was given up for adoption.

Most of all I would like to add that I fin adoption to be one of the greatest inventions, nothing can replace unconditional love and i believe everyone needs that and is possible through adoption.