Conflict Resolution

I thought last Thursdays lecture on conflict resolution was one of the most important lectures we have had. When most people think about arguing, you think about getting it all out. When in reality most of the things people think about anger and conflict are myths. It's very important to remember that the process is way more important then the content. This is something I struggle with. Relationships in the past have probably gone sour because of the way we argued. When I argue, I always am thinking about what we are arguing about and what I want out of it. It sounds stubborn, because it is. I realized that conflict is something I need to work on, with the guy I have been seeing now he is very different than any other guy I have dated before. He knows how to argue in a healthy way and never says mean things that in the end he doesn't mean and he never raises his voice. I think that I can benefit from this and if we stay together our relationship would be very healthy. I also so think the steps for resolution is a good idea to have. At times when arguments come around, the people just blow up at each other. If you had a list somewhere in your house you can remember to go there and get it and follow the list, instead of just blowing up.