My favorite point from our lecture on decision making was that the focus shouldn't be on who wins in a decision. If one person wins, then this implies that the other loses. If a relationship is healthy, everyone should be satisfied with the decision in the end. This doesn't mean that everyone will get their way all of the time, but they should at least be comfortable with the decision.
My family typically doesn't have a problem with decision making. We may just be lucky in that we all have similar interests and beliefs so it is easy for us to agree most of the time. Of course I didn't agree with all of the decisions my parents made when I was younger, but I've started to accept their authority and knowledge influence as I've grown older. Homeostasis seems to be on our side in this case. We sort of have a routine for getting things done when they need to be done, so we don't have to argue over who does what.
Unfortunately, this doesn't always work in families that aren't in agreement about everything. This is why it is important for families to discuss important issues so that everyone knows what everyone else's viewpoint is. Even if there is disagreement about a subject, it will be more resolvable if each person understands how the other feels.
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