Good Communication Lecture

In the lecture we learned good communication is key to intimacy and family interaction. Knowing the gender differences between men and women really helps distinguish why there seems to often be barriers in communication. Just last night my roommate was complaining about how her boyfriend does not feel the need to tell her about his day and is totally fine with going a couple days without even talking to her. He does not understand why she needs this level of attention from him. She interpreted this as he was not that in to her and maybe had someone else. I explained to her that may be the case, but it could also just be attributed to the gender differences in communicaiton between men and women. Men are Action Oriented and owmen are connection and affiliative oriented. In this scenario, he may not feel he needs to tell her about her day to let her know he cares about her cause she should just know that. My roommate on the other hand needs to experience the connection from communication to nurture the relationship. When she expressed this to him he seemed very blunt with her and she interpreted that as him being cold to her feelings. However he may have been just trying to solve the problem. I told her to look at both scenarios and talk to him about it before she came to any conclusions on her own.