I have never had a long term relationship, besides ones in high school that everyone knew would end up going no where. Even though high school has been years ago, I still have not had a steady relationship. Being in the military and have to leave on a moments notice had kept me from even trying. Anytime I would get close I would move far away and then the whole long distance thing would not work. I could consider this as me having all the power. I believe to have a healthy relationship, both partners need to have good communication and equal power. However saying that, I do think that one should have some say in how their money is spent after all the bills and extra things that came up get paid. Also, being in the military for the past 4 years has led me to see that people do have power trips. This can tend to end relationships, since they get greedy and keep going. Having power does feel good to oneself, but we all need to know how to control it and use is wisely, without hurting our loved ones.